Eph. 4:26 -Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath
The Nature of Anger
Anger is “an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage,” according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline.
Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (such as a coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings.
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion but it’s unhealthy when it flares up all the time or spirals out of control. Chronic, explosive anger has serious consequences for your relationships, your health and your state of mind.
Anger is an emotion often characterized by feelings of great displeasure, indignation, hostility, wrath and vengeance. Reacting in anger is how people express their dissatisfaction with life. Anger begins with a feeling that’s often expressed in words or actions.
Anger, not expressed, can create other problems. It can lead to passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile.
Some of the root causes of anger include injustice, strife, impatience, abuse, unmet needs, jealousy (Cain and Abel –Gen.4)
Eph. 4:27 -And do not give the devil an opportunity [to lead you into sin by holding a grudge, or nurturing anger, or harboring resentment, or cultivating bitterness].Amp
YOUR ANGER AFFECTS THOSE AROUND YOU
You know the saying “laughter is contagious?” The same holds true for other emotions. Your anger can affect not only you, but the people in your life as well. It casts a negative feeling on those around you.
At the very least, your anger can cause people to feel put off, upset, intimidated, afraid, or a handful of other unpleasant emotions. You’re also running the risk of pushing loved ones out of your life for good.
Do you lash out at your partner when you’re angry? Whether this is emotional, physical or both, it can have an extremely negative effect on your partner’s wellbeing. Solving conflict with anger, yelling and violence also sets an unhealthy precedent in a relationship, ignoring the need for open, trusting communication.
Explore what’s really behind your anger
Have you ever gotten into an argument over something silly? Big fights often happen over something small, like a dish left out or being ten minutes late. But there’s usually a bigger issue behind it. If you find your irritation and anger rapidly rising, ask yourself, “What am I really angry about?” Identifying the real source of frustration will help you communicate your anger better, take constructive action, and work towards a resolution.
Is your anger masking other feelings such as embarrassment, insecurity, hurt, shame, or vulnerability? If your knee-jerk response in many situations is anger, it’s likely that your temper is covering up your true feelings. This is especially likely if you grew up in a family where expressing feelings was strongly discouraged. As an adult, you may have a hard time acknowledging feelings other than anger.
Anger can also mask anxiety. When you perceive a threat, either real or imagined, your body activates the “fight or flight” response. In the case of the “fight” response, it can often manifest itself as anger or aggression. To change your response, you need to find out what’s causing you to feel anxious or scared.
Anger problems can stem from what you learned as a child. If you watched others in your family scream, hit each other, or throw things, you might think this is how anger is supposed to be expressed. But it’s wrong and destructive.
James 1:20 for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God
CONSEQUENCES OF ANGER
It can destroy your marriage
It can make your boss to issue you a sack letter
It can make people to flee from you
It sends a signal to your man or woman that you are not a responsible person
It results to serious fighting and quarreling between a man and a woman
It blocks God’s blessings when the anger is done in a bad way
It chases away your customer because of bad customer relations
It leads to abusive and insulting each other
It can force you to do a very deadly thing when the spirit has really get over your head.
It can force a woman to do evil against her husband/man
It can force you to divorce your partner
It can makes someone to lay a deliberate curse upon his or her partner.
PRAYER BULLETS AGAINST ANGER
Whatever the spirit of anger has destroyed in my life………(mention them), O God, begin to repair it by Your mercy, in Jesus name.
Father, this anger has caused my marriage, let Your peace settles in my mind, in the name of Jesus.
Any kind of destructive power that is attacking my brain and mind, be destroyed in the name of Jesus.
My Father, I am here for total reformation of my character. Break me and remould me again, in the name of Jesus.
I fire back every arrow of anger, in the name of Jesus
Evil stranger in my body, come out of my head, my mind, my face, in the name of Jesus.
I command any demon afflicting me with this spirit to leave at once, in Jesus name
Every inherited anger from my foundation, break by fire The spirit of anger hunting my marriage, be destroyed by fire, in Jesus name